Where Does the First Dance Tradition Come From?
I was fascinated to find that the historical origins and tradition of the first dance at a wedding, often referred to as the bridal waltz, dates back centuries and has its roots in European aristocracy. In the 17th and 18th centuries, grand balls were a common form of entertainment among nobility. At these events, the most important couple—usually the host and hostess or newlyweds at weddings—would open the dance floor with a formal dance. This was a way of symbolising their union and inviting guests to partake in the celebration.
So how has the bridal waltz evolved?
The waltz, in particular, gained prominence in the 19th century, as it was seen as an elegant and romantic dance. Over time, this tradition of having the newlyweds perform a “first dance” spread beyond the aristocracy and became a common practice at weddings across many cultures. Today, while the waltz remains a popular choice for the first dance, couples can choose any dance style that reflects their personalities
Is doing a bridal waltz necessary?
You have tradition vs. personal preference. While the first dance is a long-standing tradition, it’s by no means a requirement. Many couples feel pressure to include the bridal waltz because it’s expected, but modern weddings are increasingly personalised, and the decision to include (or not include) a first dance should be based on the couple’s comfort level and preferences.
What could be the alternatives to the first dance?
If the idea of performing a formal dance feels intimidating, there are plenty of alternatives. Some couples opt for a fun, choreographed routine that suits their personalities or even skip the first dance altogether in favour of other meaningful moments. Some couples will invite their guests to join them on the dance floor early on, making it a more inclusive experience rather than a spotlight moment. In some cultures the couple will come running in when introduced for the first time and every guest will be on the dance floor with them!
Importance of Communication
It’s worth mentioning that while some couples may prefer to forgo the first dance, families or guests may have certain expectations around this tradition. Communicating your preferences with those close to you ensures everyone is on the same page, and it can help to alleviate any pressure associated with tradition.
What Sort of First Dance Looks Best for Photos?
Smooth, Fluid Movements
From a photographer’s perspective, dances that incorporate smooth, sweeping movements are often the most visually captivating. Traditional dances like the waltz, with its gliding steps and graceful turns, naturally lend themselves to beautiful, timeless photographs. The elegance of the movements can create stunning images of the couple flowing together, with their clothing and expressions adding to the romantic atmosphere.
Close, Intimate Poses
Close, intimate moments during the first dance also make for stunning photographs. The tender connection between the couple—whether they are gazing into each other’s eyes or sharing a quiet moment in each other’s arms—creates emotionally charged images. The proximity allows for natural, candid expressions that truly capture the joy and love of the moment.
Consider Lighting and Dress Movement
For photography, the dress and venue lighting can play a huge role in making the first dance look incredible. Dresses with flowing trains or full skirts can look spectacular when spun or twirled. Similarly, good lighting—such as soft, romantic lighting or spotlighting—can add dramatic effects to the photos, highlighting the couple and creating depth and contrast.
Personal Style Dances
If the couple opts for a dance that reflects their personality—whether it’s a salsa, swing, or even a freestyle routine—this can also make for great photos. The energy and fun from these non-traditional dances often lead to candid, joyful shots of both the couple and the reactions from guests. The key is that the dance reflects the couple’s unique connection, which always shines through in photographs.
Now, for my three tips for couples planning to do a first dance
1. Start Early with Dance Lessons
If you’re new to dancing or want to perfect your moves, start taking dance lessons several months before the wedding. This gives you enough time to get comfortable with the choreography and build confidence. Practicing regularly will ensure you feel relaxed and can enjoy the moment when it’s time to perform.
2. Choose a Song That Reflects Your Style
Pick a song that resonates with both of you, whether it’s a classic waltz, a romantic ballad, or something upbeat that matches your personality. The right song will help you feel connected and natural during the dance, making it easier to perform and enjoy.
3. Practice in Your Wedding Attire
It’s important to practice at least once in your wedding attire—or something similar—before the big day. This helps you get used to moving in your dress or suit, especially if there’s a long train or heels involved. It ensures there are no surprises, and you’ll feel more comfortable and prepared during the dance. Sometimes we get couples to practice their dance when we are photographing on location, makes for great photos and is really practical
Anna & Todd practice their first dance on location at Rippon Lea Estate
Conclusion
Whether or not to include a bridal waltz in your wedding is a personal decision that depends on your preferences and comfort level. While the first dance tradition has its historical roots in elegance and formality, today’s couples have the freedom to make the moment their own—choosing a dance style that suits them or opting for a different form of expression altogether. From a photography standpoint, smooth, intimate movements, great lighting, and genuine emotion will always result in stunning images, no matter the style of dance. This approach answers the questions while offering helpful insights for couples deciding on their first dance.
From a professional photographer’s perspective, the bridal waltz is one of the most meaningful and visually captivating moments of a wedding day. It’s a unique opportunity to capture the couple in their most intimate, joyful state, sharing a moment that symbolises their unity. As photographers, we focus on more than just documenting the dance—we aim to preserve the emotions, the body language, and the energy of the couple as they move together. The flow of the dance, combined with the expressions of love and excitement, creates a dynamic series of images that can be both cinematic and heartfelt.
Lighting, movement, and timing are key elements we consider when capturing the bridal waltz. We anticipate the best moments—whether it’s the groom spinning the bride, a shared laugh, or the moment their eyes lock. We also pay close attention to how the couple interacts with their surroundings, whether it’s the soft lighting of the dance floor or the movement of the bride’s dress. By being mindful of all these details, we ensure that every frame reflects the beauty and emotion of the moment, turning the couple’s first dance into a series of timeless images they can treasure forever.
Big thank you to all the couples that make my job such a joy!
Contact me today to see what we could create on your wedding day – Rocco
